I’m feeling power-hungry, babe, and not in the way you think! I’m talking personal power. Let’s reframe it to reclaim it [tweet that sh*t!]. It’s time for another visit to The Reframe!
The Reframe series is devoted to reframing old performance health terms into ones that serve us in the Health Movement.
Last time, we reframed the term, “Chin Up.” Today, we’re taking it one step further…
Today’s Reframe: Spotter
When you think “spotter,” you might think of that buff guy who lives in the gym yelling at you, “Just one more, bro! Come on! No pain, no gain!”
Blegh. Let’s reframe that to be more supportive in our judgment-free, accepting health goals. Get ready to feel goooood…
Like a sponsor in addiction recovery, your Spotter is the person who’s got you no matter what.
Your Spotter is someone you can check in with when you need a chin up. They can help you free a situation by giving you a different perspective and check your dark voice before it causes massive destruction.
This person won’t let the soul-crushing weight of depression or anxiety crash down on you. Your spotter won’t let negative body image bully you into shame and guilt. No, this person’s your lifeline.
But a spotter isn’t a “yes (wo)man.” Your spotter’s got you by supporting you through the darkness and also calling you on your sh*t. We don’t get stronger by hearing how great we are all the time or by enabling the same destructive patterns over and over again. We need real, honest feedback on ourselves, and sometimes that means the kind of Love that stings sometimes. You know: TRUTH.
Who’s Your Spotter?
Your Spotter could be your coach, therapist, best friend, tutor, sibling or parent. Basically, your Spotter is anyone you can trust to be real and loving with you.
When you’ve got a difficult decision to make, are doubting yourself or your worth, or are just having a hard time dragging yourself out of the dark place, you turn to your Spotter for help.
Here are my Spotters:
My therapist: She’s always got me and isn’t afraid to put me in check. I can count on her to shoot me straight in a compassionate, empathetic way.
My husband: We have a safe word for when I’m being controlling. It’s pineapple. He isn’t afraid to use it because I want to get better at this! I want to release this need to control everything, and he helps me do just that by calling me on it.
My besties: My girls got me no matter what. These are the spotters I go to when I doubt myself, am afraid to do something or need to make a difficult decision. I know I can trust them to give me their honest take.
Now I want to hear about your Spotter! Tell me on social media who your Spotter is:
As you thank your Spotter, start thinking about how you can be a stellar Spotter for them, too. This Love thing only works if traffic’s moving both ways, remember? Go get ’em, tiger.