S*** happens. In fact, it happens all the time. Most of the time, we can handle it just fine. The situation isn’t too drastic or we’ve grown strong enough to brush it off.
Those situations aren’t what we’re talking about today.
Today, we’re talking about the big stuff. The stuff that makes you go, “Eff. I don’t even know how to handle this!”
There’s a heck of a lot of change going on in people’s lives all around me. There’s something about right now that’s throwing everyone for a major loop!
People are losing their jobs. People are getting sick. People are shutting down businesses. There’s a lot of struggle happening right now, basically, and it’s easy to get caught up in the woe of it all.
But what if we redirected that focus? What if we became determined not to get sucked up in the turmoil of it all and instead made it mean something?
That’s exactly what I hope to help you do today, Lovely. Today is all about empowering you once again, no matter how hard this time is for you.
We’re going over three mindset-changing truths that can serve as gentle reminders to keep you from sinking. Choose whichever speaks to you (or alternate all 3!), and repeat them in your head whenever you need a boost of empowerment.
If times aren’t hard, these reminders can still help you to view things on the brighter side!
The story doesn’t end here
How would you feel if you were reading a book and the hero finally came to their big obstacle… and the story just ended?
I bet you’d be pissed. I bet you’d feel cheated.
Well, tell you what, boys and girls. Your story isn’t over either. No story ends here.
Whatever it is you’re struggling with is just an obstacle to overcome. The guts of the story is in the working through it.
This is the point where the hero learns all the lessons that the struggle was meant to teach him. This is where the hero gets an ego check, instilling in him humility and wisdom. It’s usually a stepping stone to something much greater than what he’s just lost.
You are the hero of your own story. Look for the lesson in this. Refuse to believe that there’s no point to the pain. This will teach you something. This will lead you somewhere higher if you allow it.
This is not your forever
A lot of us catastrophize when we go through hard times. The real danger comes when we start to think that it will always be this way. It’s when we think that this one situation is a general summary of what our life is destined to be that we start to lose hope and faith.
So stop it. This is not the time to give in.
The only reason this would be your forever is if you refused to learn from it and repeated this crap all over again.
Say you lost your job because you were late to work multiple times. Learn from it. Set alarms 30 minutes earlier for your next job. There will be a next job! Make it a point to be early every single day so that you never have to live through this pain again.
The responsibility of your forever lies on you and you alone.
One event doesn’t determine my worth
When we get hit with a life-changing event, sometimes we think that it’s all our fault. And sometimes it is. But then we make generalized judgments about the situation. Maybe we think that we’re not enough as we are, or that we will never get what we’re after.
Even if it was your fault, that doesn’t mean that you are not deserving of happiness. Maybe you acted in a way that caused this, but that does not mean that YOU are undeserving.
You have inherent worth. So you did something crappy. Apologize and keep moving forward with actions that are informed by this event. Stop punishing yourself. Being a martyr won’t make this any easier.
And if it wasn’t your fault, let go of the shoulda-woulda-coulda’s all the same.
You can’t always control what happens to you in life, but you can control your experience. You choose to interpret everything that happens in your own way.
Will you choose to let it destroy you, or will you learn and move on with the rest of your story?
Choosing different actions than what you’re used to isn’t easy. It takes focus, mindfulness and persistence, but it pays off.
Choose a life free of guilt and restraint. Open yourself up to the possibility of another experience.
I know you can.