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Your Life Is Up To Interpretation

It’s Christmas Eve, and I’m in New Hampshire visiting with my fiancé’s family. It’s the first time I haven’t been with my family for Christmas.

It’s also the first time I’ll experience snow at Christmas.

It’s the first time I’ll be able to experience children opening gifts on Christmas morning since I was a child myself (with my much-beloved nephews to be).

It’s the first time I’m actually ok with being away because I know how much my family loves me, even if I can’t be there with them.

Up until this year, I have never even considered being away from my family at Christmas. It was something I would quit a job over. It was non-negotiable.

I initially felt like I was sacrificing a lot, giving up my Grandmother’s Christmas Eve party, my Dad’s turkey on Christmas day, and that precious time watching nerdy movies altogether as a family with Buddy the golden retriever at our feet.

What changed my mind? The removal of my stubborn blinders. When I took those off, I saw the love I feel for the family I am joining, the understanding I feel from the family I’m away from, and the excitement I have for the family I will be creating.

I started to consider all the amazing experiences I had to gain, trying something new. Real snow-capped mountains, golden leaves clinging to frost-bitten trees, the actual need for cold-weather clothing, Dunkin Donuts coffee…

There are so many opportunities in life to open up and experience something different, if we choose to see them as such.

When life throws you into situations you don’t want to be in, do you fall to the ground crying “Woe is me!” or do you go with the change in path and notice how green the grass is where you’re walking now?

What you see, how your life is played out, is based upon how you choose to act and react.

You can choose to interpret even the most painful situations as the lessons that will inform the rest of your life.

A loss of a job could be viewed as a release of all that time that you would spend at work to now use in the creation of a job that funds your passions in life.

A breakup or divorce can be a push in the right direction toward the person whose love will make you say, “Aha, this is why I was put through all those tests before.”

A loss of a friend or family member can bring you back to the gratitude you have for those close to you who are still alive, and maybe even mend broken bonds.

Every situation, even if it seems like the darkest time of your life, can actually be a shortcut to what you want most.

Life has a sneaky way of working out. Have faith, and keep taking action toward your dreams. You’ll get there.

Merry Christmas,



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7 responses to “Your Life Is Up To Interpretation”

  1. James says:

    Merry Christmas, Amy! Welcome to New England as well! Your post here is ironically very compatible to what’s going on in my life right now. I just got out of a six year, destructive, co-dependent, miserable relationship. I’m not looking back, but very much excitedly looking forward! I hope your experience with your new family and with gorgeous New England is a great one! Take care.


    • Amy says:


      Sorry it took me so long to get back to you, my friend! We didn’t have wifi in NH and my app that lets me comment on my phone is all screwy. :)

      Thank you so much for your well-wishes, and I commend you on all your amazing progressions this year. 2013 is going to be amazing for both of us!

      Stay strong, and keep going. You are such a great person, and the whole world needs to know it! :)


      • James says:

        Yes, Amy, 2013 IS going to be amazing!! Thanks for your kind words. :) Oh, by the way, I finished your book recently, and it was very helpful! Thanks for that as well!


  2. Dawn says:

    Ah, Amy…you have no idea how perfectly timed this post is.
    Today I was told by my mother that she could not have such a hateful person as me in her life.
    I’m not hateful, that is the way she herself chooses to see me.
    The incident with her today was not a pleasant one…but after about an hour, I began to see it for the gift it was.
    There was no bridge back to a better relationship for the two of us.
    What I did get was the gift of freedom. She released me from the burden of trying to get her to see me for who I truly am, instead of the reflection of her own hurt and anger.
    Today I am free. That is a gift I can be thankful for.
    Merry Christmas to you! and Thank you for your wonderful words of love and encouragement.

    • Amy says:

      Oh, Dawn. I’m really sorry to hear that you went through that.

      Kudos to you for making lemonade out of the situation, though! Freedom is a wonderful gift, and one you can now be thankful for every day. Congratulations, beautiful bird! ;)

  3. Merry Christmas Amy!

    I still remember my first white Christmas back in 2003 when I was in Banff, Canada. It was also my first Christmas away from my family. That 10-month trip changed everything… it’s when I met my wife and eventually led to me moving from Australia to Canada. As you say, there are so many amazing experiences to be had if you are open to them.

    Thanks for your contributions to The Change Blog this year, and all the best for 2013.


    • Amy says:

      Hi Peter!

      It was beautiful in NH for Christmas! It only snowed that morning while I was up there and I was drinking it in like a 5-year old. :)

      It has been such an honor and a pleasure to be a contributor to The Change Blog this year. Thank you–from the bottom of my heart–for the opportunity.

      Much health and happiness to you and yours,


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