Often when people come to me for training because they’re unhappy with their current body, I hear a ton of excuses:
I’m not eating healthy because I can’t give up sugar.
I’m not exercising because I can’t stick to a schedule.
I don’t do X, Y or Z because I am afraid of A, B or C. I won’t do it.
When I ask them why they can’t give up sugar, stick to a schedule, or why they’re so dead-set against something they’ve never tried, I usually receive this in return:
That’s just how I am.
I’d like to talk to you all about “how you are.”
If you are unhealthy and unhappy, how you act now is a flawed system. [click to tweet] Making excuses for the way you are now is your mind resisting health and happiness.
Being unhealthy for a long time becomes your baseline, physically and mentally. You become comfortable with the uncomfortable weight you carry, the low self-esteem that shadows every act you take.
This baseline is where your mind and body will want to rest when you aren’t working on changing it. Your body will fight in the beginning to bring you back up in weight. Your mind will fight to revert your confidence back to this low state because that’s what it’s used to.
But it’s not all bad news.
You can change your baseline. You can make healthy and happy your default position.
But it will not change if you’re going to follow the leader (your current baseline) by arguing for your current limitations. You’re not going to achieve any kind of lasting positive change if you refuse to stop fighting for your excuses.
You CAN make the choices that will lead you to a better baseline. You CAN achieve lasting positive change.
But it won’t just happen magically one day. It’s a choice. It’s a commitment. It’s a fight.
There are a few rules to achieving lasting results that hold true 99.9% of the time. Curious? Let’s dive in…
1. You absolutely CAN live without whatever is making you unhealthy
Stop arguing for why you need these toxic foods in your life all the time. You like them, I get it, but you don’t need to eat donuts every morning of your life. You don’t need to drink your way into a blackout every time you head out with your friends. You don’t need to have processed, chemically-processed crap that inflames your gut and leaves you feeling lethargic all day long every single day.
You like the taste, sure. But what is it doing to your life? What is it doing to this one chance you have to fully experience your active body, your active mind? Food that makes you feel like crap muddles this one life you have.
Keep those yummy mind/body-muddlers to 10% of the time. The rest of the time, allow yourself to thrive and stop making excuses for being unhealthy.
You may need to instill a 30-day challenge to kickstart your healthy-eating regimen. A food journal is helpful as well. Bottom line: it will be uncomfortable at the start. Expect it. Go with it. Get comfortable with the uncomfortable.
2. You sure CAN make time for working out
Think you can’t stick to a schedule? This is by far my least favorite excuse. Do you know how many of the workouts I’ve offered you here are over 15 minutes?
Do you have 15 minutes 5 days a week? Why yes, you sure do.
Stop stop stop with the freaking time commitment excuse. It just doesn’t make sense. Every single one of us can wake up 15 minutes early, jump out of bed, and do a bodyweight workout routine that will make you feel better inside and out for the rest of the day.
Every workout I’ve listed in the upcoming Intensive is short, but effective. Heck, all my favorite workouts are. You don’t need to carve out 2 hours to go to the gym like we used to believe. Times & science now prove otherwise.
You know what would be hard to make time for? Your slow, labored walking as you try to keep up with your kids on vacation. Your extra doctor’s appointments because he says you have to have more frequent check-ups with your declining level of health. Your medicines that keep piling up because your healthy issues just keep piling up.
Stop the madness before it starts, or take the time to reverse it right here in this movement. It’ll only take a second.
3. If nothing’s worked for you in the past, you need to do something you haven’t tried
It’s scary, I agree. But what makes you think you “can’t?”
This is a topic that frustrates me if you can’t tell already. ;)
People reach for the word, “can’t,” when they’re afraid, but it’s not the right word. The phrase, “I’m scared,” would work fine. Maybe even, “I don’t think I’m going to like this at all.” That seems fair.
But, “I can’t,” leads to a mindset that makes positive change perceptively harder than it would be otherwise.
Using the phrase, “I can’t” loosely is solidifying the belief in your mind. It keeps you from giving your all in your workouts, which is necessary to achieve physical results.
Instead of reaching for, “I can’t,” at every turn, instead take a deep breath, and repeat after me:
“Yes I can.”
You know deep in your heart that if you truly apply yourself, you can indeed achieve the change you set out to achieve. You have it in you to do this if you just tell yourself you can and take actions that reflect that belief.
Start fighting for the you you want to be. Start arguing for her side. Start making time for the person who lives the life you want.
You can. And you will.
What I’m concentrating on in this post is a lot like the kind of work we’re going to be doing in the upcoming Strengthen from The Inside Out Intensive that starts next Monday. I’m pumped that quite a few of you have already signed up to once and for all take the reigns of your inner and outer strength, and to fight for your lives with me!
There are only 5 more days to sign up for this unique 8-week Intensive featuring all of these:
- beautiful worksheets to help you solidify a mindset that encourages positive change
- weekly videos featuring me talking you through the week’s homework
- intensive-specific food journals that take you through each phase of the intensive
- a guided 30-day detox challenge to kickstart your healthy eating lifestyle
- weekly strength and cardio programs to revolutionize your body
- much, much more!
Interested? Let’s get strong…
I’d really love to help you in this moment, so I’ve included a mantra sheet from the Intensive below. Post it somewhere you walk by regularly to remind you that you argue for your strength, not your limitations.
Just click the picture below to view the dropbox file, download it by clicking the blue “Download” button at the top right of the page and then print it yourself. Enjoy!
Please don’t hesitate any longer if you wish to be a part of this 8-week course. Enrollment ends on Friday (July 19th). I hope to see you there so I can show you once and for all: YOU CAN!
With hope and fire,
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